Want to Buy Some Cookies? (No, not Girl Scout Cookies)

Are You Poor or Are You Broke?

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We all have said it.

“No, you can’t buy those cookies, we’re poor, what don’t you get?”

We say it out of frustration. We are frustrated that the other person / child doesn’t “get it”. They do not realize there is no money for that toy, those cookies, the movies.  We are frustrated that is it so pathetic we are even in the position to not buy a bag of cookies. If you are reading this, you might know what I’m talking about.

The problem is, we say this out of emotion. Inside we feel helpless in that moment.

The reality is, take the emotion out. You can’t buy those cookies because you have no cookie money.

You are broke. Broke is a temporary state.  Poor is when you spirit is broken as well.

Broke means – Today I have no cookie money. Now tomorrow, I plan on having lots of cookie money!

Poor means – I have no cookies money and I doubt I’ll ever have any cookie money.

For me, this stop is only temporary. I have no plans or desires to spend the rest of my life without money. poor-vs-broke

If I want cookies darn it, I want cookies!

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Here is the biggest take away. DO NOT see yourself as poor. You will get out of the mess you have made. You just have to believe, work your ass off and keep moving. But you MUST believe it deep in your soul. This time in your life with no cookie money is temporary. There are lessons you are learning, there is work to be done.

So next time someone you love wants to buy some cookies, just say…”Today I can’t buy you some cookies, but some day soon, we will have enough money to buy all the cookies you could want!”

Till then, keep paddling, the shore is getting closer

T

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Saying No ~ Being the Bad Guy/Girl

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What Part Don’t They Get???

On your journey to get out of debt, the one word you get to say over and over is NO.  No to yourself and NO to those you love. No, we can’t afford that movie right now. No, you will need to wear those shoes a little longer. No, you can’t have McDonalds, yes, NOt even off the $1 menu. 

We become the “bad guy”. We are the one depriving those we care about the little things they crave so much. Why can’t they just see the vision we do? The life without debt. Don’t they realize how many Chicken Nuggets they can have in the future!!??

I feel bad saying NO. It gets old even to myself. I want to say OH HELL YES!! But where would that put us? Even further in debt or worse.

Besides, it was all those “yes”s in the past that created this monster and these “no”s.

Just this morning my other half and I were discussing how they wanted to spend $20 something we really didn’t need. They couldn’t understand why the $20 was such a big deal. Why? Let’s see… $20 is 1/3 of the waterbill, it pays for milk and cereal for a week, $20 will pay off a bill that much faster. Well you get my point. Money is money.. It has value. It accomplishes goals. There is a reason casinos use poker chips. They don’t want you to see it as money. They want you to be emotionally unattached to your money.

Why must I be the only one that “gets” it?

Is there anyone in your life that just doesn’t get it? Is there someone you have to play the “bad guy” role with?

 

T